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Vinegar Solutions you’ve gotta try on Hometalk
Halloween Mason Jars
Copper Leaf Lamp Makeover just in time for Fall
DIY Gold Leaf Wall Art + Apartment Therapy Contest
My New DIY Designer Pot and Fiddle Leaf Fig Tree from IKEA
Crates an easy Toy Storage solution
Homemade Butcher Block Cleaner
Homemade Foot Stool
Fabric Covered Plywood
Fabric Covered Cork board In Dining Area
Burlap Wreath
How to make your Post-It’s
How to give your terra cotta pots an aged look
Gold Home Office Accessories
DIY mini kitchen rolling cart
DIY project; a basket to organize my kitchen counter
A Homemade Mother’s Day Gift for my Mother-in-law
IKEA bar stools spring makeover
Coming up: next DIY projects
DIY personalized birthday mug
DIY and organizing a pantry (part II)
DIY and organizing a pantry (part I)
3 easy Easter projects
Lucky Gold Elephant
DIY Desktop Carousel
Valentine Heart Wreath
Dipped Wooden Spoons in paint
My Craft Room
My Craft Room Organization and Storage ideas
How to install a Pegboard in a craft room DIY project
Bonus room; soon to be craft/office room UPDATED STATUS II
Easy Homemade toy for our toddler
DIY projects: How paint makes a difference
It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas; Snow and Christmas decor
Inexpensive home made gifts for the Holidays
DIY Play dough for the Holidays
Gift wrapping ideas for the Holidays with brown craft paper
DIY Christmas ornaments
Homemade snow globes using mason jars
Decorate your space for the Holidays with these 3 inexpensive DIY projects using burlap
Advent Christmas Calendar
DIY projects … slight obsession with RED part II
Slight obsession with RED
Oups! What did I get myself into!
IKEA BILLY Bookcase Revamped (simple and small DIY projects)
DIY Grow chart
DIY Chalkboard
Reclaimed my old brown IKEA LEKSVIK desk
The Before and After of my old wicker baskets
The “BEFORE” and “AFTER” of my small home office

Meet my blogger friend Larry

Larry D. Bernstein header blog picture

Good Friday morning everyone,

I hope you are having a great week, we are doing well

This afternoon, I will make sure to enjoy the last rays of sunlight with Nate because we are expecting thundershowers in Montreal this Saturday. No Barbecue (BBQ) or DIY projects for us this weekend, just lazy days watching movies and eating popcorn.

Friends, I asked Larry, a great blogger friend of mine, to write a guest post for us and I’m glad he accepted. This is not one of my usual DIY or recipe posts, it’s a funny family related post that I believe you will all delight in.

Now …

MEET my blogger friend LARRY

Larry is a high school English teacher in Brooklyn, NY who writes a family blog over at  memyselfandkids. He’s a good friend of mine who I would like you all to meet. Our blogs might differ in style and content but his blog is highly enjoyable. If you are a parent, I’m sure you will be able to relate and if you’re not I’m sure you will still enjoy his writings.

Welcome Larry

I make the bed. Even when I am in a hotel. My wife laughs at me.
My wife clears the dishes within five minutes of a meal ending. She can’t sleep knowing there are dishes in the sink. I think she is too on the ball.
My wife’s parents were pack rats. She has gone in the opposite direction. I grew up in a small house.  Neatness fell through the cracks. I promised myself that my house would be neat.
There you have it  – two neat freaks we are. Well, if you want to be technical she is more organized, and I am more neat. There’s a difference. Trust me. Either way, it’s nice to have something you agree on and appreciate in your spouse.
Sure there are many other things we have in common and view similarly. However, this is a big one. I’ve had sloppy roommates in the past. I could not force them to clean and ultimately could not take when the apartment was left messy. The arguments were not pretty.
Therefore, it’s cool that my wife and I are on the same page in terms of neatness.
And now that you know the background, maybe you can answer a question I have. How do I deal with my sloppy son?
BR’s room is messy. Well, I exaggerate but as you can tell from what I noted above, I have issues. His Lego is all over the floor, his book case is overflowing, and his pajamas are wherever they landed when he kicked them off.
And he does not care. Really. I asked him about it one night while we were reading before bed.
“Your room is messy.”
No response.
“BR.”
No response.
“Do you care that your room is messy?”
“No.”
“Really?”
 “I like it.”
“Huh?” Did your heart also skip a beat? I gathered myself and found my voice again. “But you like that the rest of the house is neat – right?”
“I think it all should be sloppy.” He was laughing at me.
My eyes narrowed in confusion. Was this my first born? Was this child the product of two neat freaks? Was he really serious? Sure I recognize that he is 9-years-old and much could change. I also recognize that people with ADHD tend to be a bit more scattered and unfocused. Yet my child is supposed to be neat.
“You can’t mean that.”
Oh yes he did. However, this is one time where my child would certainly here the word no!  Our house would not be sloppy!
Since that conversation, I have come to some conclusions.
1.       If BR wants to keep his room sloppy, I will allow it (to a degree). I look at his sloppy room as a way of him expressing himself. The room is his and if this is how he wants to keep it, that’s okay. Well, at least I (or my wife) will only clean it up a bit on occasion and make the bed every day. I’m trying people.
2.       My son really is an individual. Yes, he inherited traits from my wife and I. However, ultimately he is his own person. I won’t always agree with his choices, but I will do my darndest to support him and hope that he finds happiness in his life.
 
So, I am raising a slob. That’s okay. Pretty much. Well, maybe this is another thing I hope changes when he goes through puberty.
Larry D. Bernstein

Thank you very much Larry for sharing this with us

Enjoy your weekend everyone and hope you visit Larry’s blog too!

Larry4

Larry is a husband, father to two boys, a freelance writer, a blogger and for the last 10 years a high school teacher in  Brooklyn, NY. He shares his stories as a parent and as a high school teacher on his blog memyselfandkids

 

You can also follow him on Facebook
Blog:        memyselfandkids.com

Thanks again for stopping by!

Ingrid

 

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  • Amy Mayen says:

    I’m a reformed neat freak- I used to be really bad but sewing forced me to come to terms with the fact that I’m going to have little snips of thread-everywhere! My house is tiny so I don’t have room for messes. I like things in their place…the chaos must be organized! Good post:) it made me smile!

    August 30, 2013 at 12:43 am
    • now at home mom says:

      :-) so happy that Larry’s post made you smile Amy! hubby and I loved it very much and made us laugh! :-)
      I love keeping things in place too and with Nate it’s not always possible ;-)

      August 30, 2013 at 11:41 am
      • memyselfandkids.com says:

        Interesting that sewing did all of that. Maybe, I should have my son take up sewing.
        Glad the post made you smile – always a goal of mine.

        September 3, 2013 at 12:20 am
  • Nice piece of work says:

    Hilarious, thanks so much. I’m now a Larry follower :-)

    August 30, 2013 at 3:43 am
    • now at home mom says:

      YAY! Glad to hear this Jill, I know you will enjoy his stories as much as I do & I’m sure Larry will be very happy about it too! :-)

      August 30, 2013 at 11:43 am
    • memyselfandkids.com says:

      Thanks so much. Glad it made you laugh. I always love that.

      September 3, 2013 at 12:21 am
  • momtimes4 says:

    I already love his blog! Fun!

    August 30, 2013 at 7:43 am
    • now at home mom says:

      oh! happy to hear that you already read it :-) so, as a parent, I’m sure you can relate to his stories :-)

      August 30, 2013 at 11:46 am
    • memyselfandkids.com says:

      Cool. Hop in and make a comment. I’d love to hear from you.

      September 3, 2013 at 12:22 am
  • ohlidia says:

    What a lovely guest you’ve introduced us to, Ingrid. And Larry, I quite enjoyed the humour in your writing. I also have a 10 year-old daughter who is sloppy and disorganized…but she’s not too far off the mark from me! There, I’ve said it. I am a disorganize slop! (I wouldn’t go so far as refering to myself as a slob!) I have already checked out your blog and think it’s great!

    August 30, 2013 at 8:40 am
    • now at home mom says:

      :-) You are hilarious Lidia! :-)
      I’m very happy you enjoyed reading Larry’s guest post and you being a mom of 2 girls I’m sure you will enjoy his blog very much! Now, I will let Larry answer you ;-)
      thanks again Lidia!

      August 30, 2013 at 11:48 am
    • memyselfandkids.com says:

      Glad you enjoyed the humor. A slop – huh? Hmm, I guess that’s better than a slob. Either way, cool that you take responsibility for your daughter’s ways. I’d blame my spouse.
      Thanks for visiting the blog.

      September 3, 2013 at 12:24 am
  • memyselfandkids.com says:

    Once again, thanks for having me. I enjoy your blog and am glad to have gotten to know you.

    August 30, 2013 at 8:55 am
    • now at home mom says:

      Thank you very much Larry :-) I’m the one that is very happy to have you as a guest today and I enjoy reading your blog very much too! :-)

      August 30, 2013 at 11:50 am
  • easycraftsforchildren says:

    What a funny post make me laugh, thanks for sharing it !!

    August 31, 2013 at 8:36 am
    • now at home mom says:

      Thank you very much Izabel! :-) glad you enjoyed Larry’s post! :-)

      September 1, 2013 at 8:48 am
  • Julia @cuckoo4design says:

    FUNNY! Nice to meet you Larry!
    And have a great weekend Ingrid!

    August 31, 2013 at 1:27 pm
    • now at home mom says:

      :-) happy you enjoyed Larry’s post Julia and hope you are having a lovely weekend too! :-)

      September 1, 2013 at 8:49 am
    • memyselfandkids.com says:

      Thanks and nice to meet you as well Julia.

      September 3, 2013 at 12:25 am
  • kalamitykelli says:

    I’m so glad I read this post! Larry, I am an adult with ADHD and my daughter has ADHD as well as severe dyslexia. My husband does not and is very organized as well as neat. Obviously we are not alike in many ways. I appreciate when he organizes the pantry and the garage and re-loads the dishwasher because I don’t “load it correctly” – I even like for him to iron my clothes because he is such a perfectionist – however, he learned a long time ago to stop expecting the same from me and my daughter. My talents are creative and persistent and fearlessness. Now that I don’t have to follow a recipe of someone else’s I even like to cook! He’s a rule follower and I am not. He keeps me focused and I offer him spontaneity and the same with my daughter, although she is a huge rule follower like her dad. My side of the bedroom is messy and his is not……….I do not notice it! He does and he loves me enough to ignore that and I love him enough to ignore the fact that he thinks that I should be more like him. See how that works? :) It’s all in your perception of the “problem”. Your son will be fine and his inability to see what you term as “messy” or “sloppy” is no reflection on you. I’m sure he’s got great talent. I grew up to be pretty darn successful and so has my daughter – so we became productive in spite of ourselves and your son will too! I promise! Celebrate his talents and if you must, overlook his sloppiness because he’s probably overlooking what he thinks is nagging! :)

    August 31, 2013 at 6:09 pm
  • Cristina@remodelandolacasa says:

    What a nice post! I used to be a neat freak, my husband and daughter were and still are the messy ones. I kept on nagging them about it but it was worthless. They are like that and I cannot change it. It was hard to accept but finally we all have reach a medium point where our home is not that neat but neither that messy.

    September 1, 2013 at 12:35 pm
  • Ronit Fried says:

    Welcome to my world. I live with four slobs. My heart goes out to you guys.

    September 1, 2013 at 1:18 pm
  • Kate @ Did That Just Happen? says:

    As always – an excellent blog by Larry! Love it!

    September 1, 2013 at 5:40 pm
  • Jesse @ Scout & Nimble says:

    Thank you so much for sharing Larry with us! Love his writing style and I almost spit coffee out my nose with the “heart skip a beat” part. Holy smokes…hilarious! Looks like Larry will be added to my faves! ;)

    September 4, 2013 at 10:41 am
    • now at home mom says:

      :-) hi!hi! I’m really happy Larry’s post made you laugh too! :-)
      & happy that he will be added to your favorites Jesse! :-)

      September 5, 2013 at 7:02 am
  • Vashti Quiroz-Vega says:

    Hello Ingrid! Very nice guest blogger. Larry is witty and entertaining. I will definitely check out his blog. Thanks for introducing him on your awesome blog. :D

    September 9, 2013 at 8:45 pm
    • now at home mom says:

      :-) YAY! I’m so happy you really enjoyed Larry’s post Vashti! ;-)
      I’m really happy I introduced him too, I love his writings and hope you visit his blog too! :-)

      September 10, 2013 at 7:49 pm

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