Good Friday morning everyone,
I hope you are having a great week, we are doing well
This afternoon, I will make sure to enjoy the last rays of sunlight with Nate because we are expecting thundershowers in Montreal this Saturday. No Barbecue (BBQ) or DIY projects for us this weekend, just lazy days watching movies and eating popcorn.
Friends, I asked Larry, a great blogger friend of mine, to write a guest post for us and I’m glad he accepted. This is not one of my usual DIY or recipe posts, it’s a funny family related post that I believe you will all delight in.
MEET my blogger friend LARRY
Larry is a high school English teacher in Brooklyn, NY who writes a family blog over at memyselfandkids. He’s a good friend of mine who I would like you all to meet. Our blogs might differ in style and content but his blog is highly enjoyable. If you are a parent, I’m sure you will be able to relate and if you’re not I’m sure you will still enjoy his writings.
I make the bed. Even when I am in a hotel. My wife laughs at me.
My wife clears the dishes within five minutes of a meal ending. She can’t sleep knowing there are dishes in the sink. I think she is too on the ball.
My wife’s parents were pack rats. She has gone in the opposite direction. I grew up in a small house. Neatness fell through the cracks. I promised myself that my house would be neat.
There you have it – two neat freaks we are. Well, if you want to be technical she is more organized, and I am more neat. There’s a difference. Trust me. Either way, it’s nice to have something you agree on and appreciate in your spouse.
Sure there are many other things we have in common and view similarly. However, this is a big one. I’ve had sloppy roommates in the past. I could not force them to clean and ultimately could not take when the apartment was left messy. The arguments were not pretty.
Therefore, it’s cool that my wife and I are on the same page in terms of neatness.
And now that you know the background, maybe you can answer a question I have. How do I deal with my sloppy son?
BR’s room is messy. Well, I exaggerate but as you can tell from what I noted above, I have issues. His Lego is all over the floor, his book case is overflowing, and his pajamas are wherever they landed when he kicked them off.
And he does not care. Really. I asked him about it one night while we were reading before bed.
“Your room is messy.”
“Do you care that your room is messy?”
“I like it.”
“Huh?” Did your heart also skip a beat? I gathered myself and found my voice again. “But you like that the rest of the house is neat – right?”
“I think it all should be sloppy.” He was laughing at me.
My eyes narrowed in confusion. Was this my first born? Was this child the product of two neat freaks? Was he really serious? Sure I recognize that he is 9-years-old and much could change. I also recognize that people with ADHD tend to be a bit more scattered and unfocused. Yet my child is supposed to be neat.
“You can’t mean that.”
Oh yes he did. However, this is one time where my child would certainly here the word no! Our house would not be sloppy!
Since that conversation, I have come to some conclusions.
1. If BR wants to keep his room sloppy, I will allow it (to a degree). I look at his sloppy room as a way of him expressing himself. The room is his and if this is how he wants to keep it, that’s okay. Well, at least I (or my wife) will only clean it up a bit on occasion and make the bed every day. I’m trying people.
2. My son really is an individual. Yes, he inherited traits from my wife and I. However, ultimately he is his own person. I won’t always agree with his choices, but I will do my darndest to support him and hope that he finds happiness in his life.
So, I am raising a slob. That’s okay. Pretty much. Well, maybe this is another thing I hope changes when he goes through puberty.
Larry D. Bernstein
Thank you very much Larry for sharing this with us
Enjoy your weekend everyone and hope you visit Larry’s blog too!
Larry is a husband, father to two boys, a freelance writer, a blogger and for the last 10 years a high school teacher in Brooklyn, NY. He shares his stories as a parent and as a high school teacher on his blog memyselfandkids
Thanks again for stopping by!